Weddings Should Always Be Romantic
Marriages are a common event in all families. We have all been to the weddings of friends or family members. Nothing else is like the personal romantic weddings of the days of yore when people used to make strong commitments one each other. Today we are indeed more and more concerned that the wedding ceremony is becoming less romantic since the people are now getting married for a series of many different reasons without real love and romance being the principal reason for it.
In certain countries there are additional benefits to those that are married especially in the housing market. For example being able to buy a bigger or better house based on two earnings makes repayments easier. However buying a house together can never replace the true feelings of love and wanting to spend a lifetime together building "a real home". Without that the house can never be a home. One of the reason why people are rushing to get married today is for the financial benefits of being married.
Some health care and pension providers will offer benefits that are payable to spouses and which are not payed to couples which live together. If you get married to allow your spouse to get access to your medical benefits is not a bad reason altogheter to get married, however romance and love really need to be present as well of course.
Marriage is then either brought forward too soon or rushed into without sufficient thought or regard to its life long relationship meaning. I have many a times even come across young student couples who have decided to marry so they get assessed as being independent from their parents and thus ensure the parents do not have to contribute to college fees etc. (In some cases parents are unwilling to contribute even though the state assesses them as being able to and reduces any student grants accordingly.)
The romance is not always totally lost when it all falls down, however. Still, many couples are able to ensure that the flame that is lit during their marriage ceremony will last for ever and ever and will be enflamed in their relationship. Only the couples which did hard work to build these romantic relationships both before and after their marriage are then able to reinforce their flame even in the hard times of their own relationship as well.
By ensuring that you are getting married for the right reasons you will ensure that you are going to take the steps necessary to encourage a healthy relationship that will last through the test of time. Getting married should never be just a business proposition and it should not be treated as such.
Romantic weddings resulting from strong personal commitment to each other are becoming scarcer as more and more people marry for reasons other than romance. Married couples enjoy some financial benefits such as better affordability for housing. Some pension and healthcare schemes offer special benefits that are payable to spouse. Students rush into marriage to show they are not dependent on parents and their contributions to college fees. Such students hope to increase their chances of obtaining grants. However, the majority of couples live together in wedded bliss, cemented by their romantic relationships. Marrying for the right reasons will ensure that the lamp lit during the marriage ceremony burns brighter and longer. Romantic weddings used to be much more significant events in the past than they are today. Many couples enter into the marriage ceremony for financial reasons rather than romantic ones. One reason for this is the ability to buy a better house. Another important factor is health benefits, which are often available only to married couples. For some young people, another reason to rush to marry is to be financially independent from their parents in order to receive more financial aid. Marriages made for financial reasons sometimes survive, but only through hard work. Anyone who is considering getting married should make sure that they are doing it for the right reasons.
Published June 12th, 2007
Filed in Women